...That is the advice we are given as "waiting adopting parents". "Try to go on with life as you normally would." I find that to be the most ridiculous request. Waiting to adopt a child is the most abnormal experience I have ever had to live through for such a long period of time. The anticipation of "the referral" and the events that follow invades every aspect of our family's life.
We skipped our family vacation last summer so that we could use that money for the adoption. We are really feeling the need to plan one this year because that time with each other is so important to us. So, how do we plan it? We really believed that our next family vacation would include our daughter. Do we plan it in hopes that she will be here by then or do we wait to make sure she will be here?
My cousin is getting married in California next September. We won't be able to take the kids, and if our daughter is here we wouldn't be able to leave her that soon. Can we definitely bank on her being here by then? No, we can't. Can't make plans because we don't know.
My son worries in the back of his mind about the week we will be gone to Ethiopia. It has given him an underlying current of anxiety that makes him worry about a lot of other things. All of the reassurance in the world will not appease his concerns and so he lives his daily life stressed out.
I am obsessed with finding any scrap of information I can on other blogs. I spend more time than I would like scouring the Ethiopia blogs that I follow. I battle myself between trying to get the adoption off my mind and letting myself be excited about bringing our daughter home.
We were at DQ the other night and all 6 of us squeezed into a booth. One of the boys said, "What are we going to do when sister gets here, we won't be able to fit!" Then, MBM said,"that's Ok she can sit on my lap." I just wanted to hug him and cry because I don't want him to miss out on those moments.
We need her home NOW! The only way life is going to feel normal for this family is if we have our little girl home with us. We have carved out a place in all of our hearts for her and we need her here to fill it in! We are praying and would love it if you would pray with us to "get this show on the road!"
Love,
DMM
We skipped our family vacation last summer so that we could use that money for the adoption. We are really feeling the need to plan one this year because that time with each other is so important to us. So, how do we plan it? We really believed that our next family vacation would include our daughter. Do we plan it in hopes that she will be here by then or do we wait to make sure she will be here?
My cousin is getting married in California next September. We won't be able to take the kids, and if our daughter is here we wouldn't be able to leave her that soon. Can we definitely bank on her being here by then? No, we can't. Can't make plans because we don't know.
My son worries in the back of his mind about the week we will be gone to Ethiopia. It has given him an underlying current of anxiety that makes him worry about a lot of other things. All of the reassurance in the world will not appease his concerns and so he lives his daily life stressed out.
I am obsessed with finding any scrap of information I can on other blogs. I spend more time than I would like scouring the Ethiopia blogs that I follow. I battle myself between trying to get the adoption off my mind and letting myself be excited about bringing our daughter home.
We were at DQ the other night and all 6 of us squeezed into a booth. One of the boys said, "What are we going to do when sister gets here, we won't be able to fit!" Then, MBM said,"that's Ok she can sit on my lap." I just wanted to hug him and cry because I don't want him to miss out on those moments.
We need her home NOW! The only way life is going to feel normal for this family is if we have our little girl home with us. We have carved out a place in all of our hearts for her and we need her here to fill it in! We are praying and would love it if you would pray with us to "get this show on the road!"
Love,
DMM
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